by Reverend John Proctor, Alabaré Honorary President
In 1985, in the early days of the Alabaré Christian Community, we moved to Wilton and established an ecumenical House of Prayer. We had not been around very long when we received a phone call from the local Baptist minister asking if we could provide accommodation for a homeless man.
My first reaction was one of total surprise and I was lost for words. I recall asking, “Why us?” The response came, “Well, you are a Christian Community, aren’t you?” This had never been a part of our vision but we wanted to be truly ecumenical and work with the local Christian churches so I heard myself saying “Yes.”
My wife came alongside and started asking me questions, so I enquired a little further. To my horror, I discovered that this homeless man was an alcoholic man of the road. I immediately retorted, “Well, aren’t you a Christian Community?” – meaning his church – and he said, “Well, yes, but we have all tried these past two years, and no one else is prepared to do any more”. You can imagine I felt even worse about what I was committing my family to. I immediately began searching for excuses as to why it was not suitable. We had three young children, all under five. We were both working full-time. We had no experience in this area.
In the end, we took Bob in to live with us – on the one condition: he would not drink while he was with us. Bob spent two years with us, on and off, and became a great friend of the children. We discovered he was just another man with a fist full of problems. On a good day, he was great; on a bad day, it was difficult. Eventually, Bob moved on to a treatment centre.